Archive for March, 2008

Forgiveness is a hard thing to do, but we are asked to forgive our enemy, in the name of helping ourselves.

How does that work, I am hurt by someone, they are now my enemy, but I am asked to forgive them, then I am told it is good for me.

Well that is true, forgiveness is more for the person offering it, then to the person receiving it. It removes negative feelings from out daily thought, opens our minds and clears our heart. All of this is not only good for the soul, but its all healthy for the body.

Negative feeling, resentment and such all weigh down on us, it’s a heavy burden to carry. Forgiveness is a blessing to the forgiver, its a gift of love to self, along with a gift of love to the person you are forgiving.

So give yourself a gift, forgive your Enemy…

Read Full Post »

The folloing was sent to me in an email, I am not sure who the original auther is, but I found it very profound and wanted to share it with you. I will list them here, and over the next few blogs I will break each one down (The break downs will be my own personal interpitation of the meaning).




The Best things to give:

  1. You’re Enemy: Forgiveness
  2. You’re Opponent: Tolerance
  3. You’re Friend: Your Heart
  4. You’re Child: A Good Exalmple
  5. You’re Father: Deference
  6. You’re Mother: Conduct to make her proud of you
  7. Yourself: Respect
  8. To all Men: Charity

I have this list in my Daily Planner, and see it everyday, hoping to have it inspier me, and help me to grow in to a person worth of God’s love, now I want to share it with you!


Read Full Post »

Key #10: Enjoy Life

Key #1: Enjoy Life

If it’s not fun, it’s not worth it. Yes it  may be hard work, but it still can be fun. See the challenge and see the fun!

This is the the most important rule, with out this rule all others mean nothing! You must enjoy life! Life is to short not to, so do nothing that is not enjoyable to you, in some way.

Please do not take this to mean that you should not work, if you find work not a joy, but rather try to find work that is a joy, and in the mean-time, make the current jod a joy. Find the fun in what you are doing. EVERYTHING has some fun in it. It’s up to you to find it or make it!

So how do you make fun, look at kids, and see how they do this, learn from the experts!

Kids are the masters of fun, they can make a good time anywhere anytime. It is a gift we all have, we just forget about it, and forget how to use it as we get older. And what a shame that is.

I can remember as a kid, i could have hours of fun with nothing more the an old shoe box, I really dont see that happening today,with myself, and what a shame!

It is that experience and energy flow that we need to rediscover. If we do not have a passion and the ability to have fun with that passion, then we really have nothing!

We need to fill our days with fun, sillyness and love of life. We need to be what we are created to be, people who live life alive, not live life dead.

So watch children, learn from them, and enjoy life, have fun and live well!


Read Full Post »

Key #9: Higher Standards

You will only achieve what your standards will allow, so set them high, and reach for them daily…

We all to often want to see results the moment we do something, so we set our goals and standards low, that way we can easily achieved them, and see results. The problem is, if we set them low, we never achieve a higher level. We are always going for the lower level.

We produce a circular relationship, that keeps us down, not allowing ourselves to reach higher. By setting our standards and goals higher, we then start to learn how to reach out and achieve the goal that was beyond our reach before.

Start by looking at your goals and standards you have today, rank them a level of difficulty, where the set up to be achieved with easy so you could see instant results? Or are the set up to guarantee failure? Theses goals and standards need to be re-aliened with your true purpose. They need to me realistic, but still higher then before. Each goal or standard needs to grow from one the the other and they have to be organic, able to change and adapt to the situation at hand. Learn to take smaller steps to the larger goal.

Learn to reach beyond yourself daily, to reach for the standard you have set, once you have reached it, begin to reach for the next, and before you know it, your life will be new!


Read Full Post »

Key #8: Get Excited

You must want what you are doing, you need to see it, and be excited about it

Excitement can be the difference between making and failure, if your not excited about, why bother!

What ever it is you are trying to accomplish in your life, new job, new marriage or new you, you need to be excited about it.

How do you expect to create something new, different and good, if your just ok with it, or you really don’t want to do it, It wont happen, you will fail unless you have an excitement about it.

Look at children, and how excited they get with a new experience. The eyes of a child see everything new as exciting. As adults we seem to have lost that ability. We need to rediscover the excitement of newness.

Find the fun and adventure in it, and get excited about it. And we can start off by seeing in our dreams. Dream of how excited you will when you are at the end, and use that excitement to work through the process. Use the energy to help you start and work thorough the hard parts. Any change we make ot ourselves is hard, but the excitement we create can help us through it all.

Excitement is like anything else, it takes work and practice, and you may fail along the way, but remain excited and hopeful and allow it to carry you to the end.


Read Full Post »

Key #7: A Team Sport

Find support, friends, family, Church or Community. We are people who need others to help us along our way

Nothing is ever done in a void, everything you do effect other around you, so why not involve them in the process of changing your life?

We all need a support system, someone we can lean on when times get hard, and they will! Nothing,and I mean nothing good for you is ever easy. If it was we wouldn’t need blogs like this!

Having a friend to help you on your walk of change is a blessing, it gives you someone you can cry to, or someone to share the joy of victory with. They will help to keep you on track, and if they are a good friend, they will be hard on you!

Support from family and friends does not make you a weak person, rather it make you stronger, you are allowing others to help you, but you are also admitting that you need the help, it’s good for the ego.

Community is also a very important link to success, we all have a need to feel excepted and needed, so allow the community to deliver this need to you. Join groups and clubs, volunteer your time to a worthy cause, or find a support group to help you change.

But I believe that our faith life is the most important link to success, find a church or place of worship to help you calm yourself, and center yourself. Nothing is more humbling then remembering that you are just a small part of the cosmos, but also that you are loved just because you are!


Read Full Post »

Key #6: A Daily Habit Starts Today

They say it takes 28 days to form a habit, make this day one… Pick one new healthy habit to start today.

Habits are a funny thing, we seem to pick them up with out even noticing them. Slang we hear everyday, songs we sing when we do certain things, almost anything can become a habit. But it seems that the things we want to become habits are “hard” to do.  We want to work-out, we want to walk everyday, eat good, stop smoking (yes stopping smoking is a habit)… And we let every thing stop us from forming the habit, but we still seem to pick up other habits with out even noticing… Why?

Because we make the new habit “TO BIG” “TO HARD” to do, we tell ourselves that we can’t before we even try.

Sure you may say, no I really want to work-out this time, and I am sure on the outside you really do, but on the inside your say, “It’s a lot of work, I have other things I could be doing…” and before you know it, your new habit is “NOT TO WORK-OUT” instead of “TO WORK-OUT”. They both are habits, it just one was easier to do then the other….

So how do we fix this problem, we don’t, you do! You have to get in to the habit of not allowing you to back out of a good habit! It’s all what we have learned to do over the years.

It all comes down to this:

Make today the first day of the new habit you want to achieve, if you fail today, then make the next day the first day of the new habit you want to achieve, and so on…. You can’t stop, because stopping will become the habit…

So start today, and everyday with one new habit, what ever it is, keep it simple and easy, then the hard and complex ones will follow…


Read Full Post »

 Key #5 Thinking Change

You must change the way you think… No matter what your actions are, if your thought is the same old defeating thought, you will not change… Think yourself new… A very simple concept, change the way you think, but very hard to do!

I can change my “outside” thoughts with no problem, convincing everyone that I am a positive thinker, but if the “inside” thought remains the same, nothing has changed.

So what is the inside and outside thought? And how do I change them….

Outside thoughts:

The outside thought is the ones that we project to others, the ones we wish to share with them, its the public front we all put out there. It may or may not represent what we really think. It is sometimes used as a mask, a cover up for all to see who we wish them to see.

The inside thought is the true thought, the authentic thought. We are not always willing to share it, nor are we always aware that it exist.

We can sometimes convince ourselves the the outside is what is true, and ignore or suppress the inside. So how do we make our inside thought our outside thought, how do we turn all the nice little sayings we use on the outside, in to reality on the inside.

Through deep conversion and deep internal conversations. It is not an over night thing, we can not just learn a new sating, or technique and expect it to grab hold deep with in, and change us. It is a process of going deep, and a process of conviction.

Journaling, prayer, meditation are all good tools to help you along the road, each of them allow you to go deep with in, to find that thought and lead it out. The conviction you hold deep with in, serves no one, not even yourself unless it is also outside, projected in all you do.

A person who holds all convection’s inside, never letting them see the light of day, is serving no one, and the convection will not grow, with out the light of day, and will eventually die, still inside.

Learn to look deep with in, and to allow your convictions to come to the surface, to see and be seen.

Journal on your trips to the inside, keep a record of your feeling and thoughts, use this experience to help plant new seeds of convictions.

Pray for a converstion of heart, pray for the change you are seeking, allow the power of God to wok in your life

Meditate on the change you are seeking, clear your mind, and use this time to feed the seeds of conversion you have planted

Catch phrases are nice, and they sell, but they are only outside thoughts until you have planted them deep within, and made your inside thought and outside thoughts one in the same.


Read Full Post »

Key #4. Big Dreamer

When have you ever heard someone say, I have small dreams for my child, I only want them to complete 6th grade and then just sit around all day for the rest of their life. Probably never, but I have learned in this world, that you never know, someone may have.

Well the same is true for us, we don’t want to have small dreams, or small plans for ourselves, we want BIG DREAMS… BIG PLANS… Well I sat the bigger the better! No go and make it happen.

As I have stated before, I am one of 3 others in a business venture, and I am the big dreamer, and I do mean BIG… As we stand at the moment, paying rent would be a big step for us, but that don’t stop me from dreaming BIG! I plan not for today for the tomorrows yet to come. I need to see the vision, and I need to feel the dream. It is all-to-often the dream that keeps me going.

So let you dreams come alive! Let them take over, if only for a few minutes each-day. It is very healthy, and very proactive, schedule it in to your day, take the five, ten or fifteen minutes to allow yourself to dream, and make it a big dream. You will find that you will come-out of it, refreshed and invigorated, with a new look on life. I do this everyday, I don’t schedule it, because it is part of my make up, but I do find that what ever is of concern, diminishes, and I see life in a new light.

My dreams keep me moving forward, because if I have no dreams, then what reason do I have to keep working.

It don’t matter if the dreams are achievable, the important thing is that it’s your dream, and your dreams become your realities. Like all dreams, only parts of it are based in reality, but the dream, often times allows you to see the reality it can become.

So starting today, allow yourself to dream, and make the dream a big one! Let yourself go, allow the moment to take you, who knows you just may dream the next big company in to existence, or better yet you may just dream the new and improved you in to existence.


Read Full Post »

Key #3. Realize it to being

We have all hear it before, see it and it will be, visualize it to make it a reality, see it and you will be it. All very nice little sayings, but is it true? YES!

We make the world around us what it is by how we see it. Why is it some-people always seen to have all the “luck”? Why do some people always get what they want? It’s easy, they see it first, then they archive it!

We must know what it is we are going for, we must have a vision, a dream, something to hold on to, something to pull us through. The dream needs to be realized, the vision need to real.

If you are living life with no vision, then that’s what you will have, nothing, no realization, or rather you will realize the nothingness you where holding on to.

If you want to make your home a peaceful home, a place of rest, then you must see that home as such, if you want your job to be fulfilling then you must visualize that job as such.

Now, that does not mean you will not have to work for it, nothing comes to us with out hard work. But the dream, the visualization is where it all starts. It gives you the end you wish to achieve.

Like building a home, you need a blueprint, you need a vision to achieve. With out it the home will never be built, you will have nothing to work towards. It is the same with your life, you need that blueprint, you need that goal.

So how do you do this? How do you make a blueprint for your life, your goal?

Start out with one goal, one vision. Write it down, and work it out on paper. List the end results, what it is you wish to achieve, see it in your minds eye and write down what it is you see.

Once you have the end result down, now list the the steps to achieve it, much like directions for putting together furniture from IKEA:

Step One: Part A and Part B are joined using bolt D… You get the idea, nothing is on its own, so what do you need to achieve the first phase of your vision?

Once you have the steps down, look the list over, reread your vision, and make any corrections needed. Then create a time-line for each step, break the over all vision in to smaller visions, with specific actions you need to do, such as, courses you need to take, or people you need to contact. What ever the step is, work out the details on how to achieve it.

Planning is important, just like building your home, with out proper planning, your home may never get built, or the price of completion may be to high. The same is true of your vision, you must plan it out, always keeping in mind that the vision and plan can be changed at anytime.

Having a fluidness to your plan and vision is a must, life happens to us all the time, ans when life happens, our vision needs to grow and change with it, we should never be so ridged that our plan and vision can not grow and change. Just like a house, it is made to grow and shrink with the heat and cold, to rock and sway to the wind and tremors. If it can not, it will not last!

Look at the buildings of the ancients, they are still standing, that is because they where constructed to change and grow, with the change of life.

So set your vision on paper, create your instruction manual, and be prepared to change your vision, to allow it to grow with you.


Read Full Post »

Older Posts »