Archive for September 9th, 2008

Life is what we make of it…

That’s a good tag line, but is it true?  Can we decide our own life, can we create a life we dream of, and is life something that we can manipulate?

Well in a word Yes, and in another word No. As with everything in life, it’s not that simple. We have the ability to control our own life, but what we can’t do is control the lives of those around us. We can make changes in how we act, we can learn to control our emotions, and we can even change habits, but we cannot control the emotions, habits or actions of others.

And like it or not, the actions, habits and emotions of others affect us all. We do not and cannot live our lives in a protective bubble. Life happens, and when it does we have to choose our own reaction to it, and also deal with the reaction of others around us.

We may choose to confront it, and others around us may choose to walk away, the choice is ours and theirs to make. What we decide to do will define us, and help shape us. If we allow others to influence us to the point of abandoning our own convictions, then we have allowed them to define us. They now have to power to control us, to make us in to what they see us as, not how we define ourselves.

In either case, life is what we made it, we either made it our own, or we allowed someone to make it for us.

When defining your life, when choosing what will help define you, you need to heed the warning and lessons of the past, of family and friends and of faith. We cannot, and should not live in a protective bubble, I just said that but it deserves repeating, our lives are not to be lives in solitude, we are creatures that desire company of our own kind. So in order to live in harmony with our fellow creatures, we must learn to listen, and learn from others, to help us form our life to help us discern who we are, and what we want to be.

Life is what you make it, but everyone else has also made life what they want it to be. The trick is to make it all work together.


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