Posts Tagged ‘adventure’

Working off of yesterdays blog about how we treat boys in this nation, I thought I would dive in to the problem a little more.

If we look at the boys being raised, how we as a society send such a mixed message to them, how parents want to raise soft and tender boy, boys with a heart. We want to raise boys as if they are not boys, we want to remove the boyness from boys.

The whole “pop” psychology thing of being in touch with your feelings and the how does that make you feel questioning of boys has, effectively, removed boyhood from boys. We have created a whole generation of boys that truly do not know how to be boys. Look around you, look at what our so called boys are doing.

One of the true signs that we have ventured to far off course is the simple fact The Pocket Dangerous Book for Boys: Things to Do By Conn Iggulden, Hal Igguldenthat we even have to talk about how boys should act. Look in the book stores, there are tons of books for parents on how to raise your boys and there is even a book for boys on how to be a boy…. Come on! Now I am not the most athletic person, truth be told, I really only like Baseball, and that passion only runs so deep in me. I sucked at playing sports as a boy, but, and I repeat, but no one had to tell me how to act as a boy, I was able to figure that all out on my own, thank you very much! Now some will say that i did not do a very good job at it, that my adventure as a boy lacked in some areas, and that would most likely be true. But I stand by the fact that I did not need a book nor did my parents need a book to tell me how to act as a boy, it was instinctive to me, my parents did not try to raise me any other way, they did not try to make me sensitive (I was by nature) nor did they try to make me sporty, they let me grow up who I was and treaded me as a boy.

What’s that mean, treaded me as a boy…

I was encouraged to play out side, to get messy to climb trees to make forts to play cops and robbers to use my imagination to create exciting new worlds for me to explore, to get holes in my jeans and to do all the other things that boys do. Being a boy  is an adventure in misadventures, it’s being allowed to fall and being told to get back up again and do it all over, and if you fall again, well that’s life. It being allowed to make mistakes and to say the wrong thing at the wrong time, to learn from experience that you just don’t say that to little girls.

Creating new worlds with only a stick from the big oak tree in your back yard and your imagination, that is boyhood at it’s best, play dates and structured time (or at least to much of it) is in opposition to boyhood, it removes the opportunity for spontaneity of a boy, creating a programmable boy and not a living boy.

What have we done to our boys? How did we get to this point? All in the name of woman’s liberation, in our efforts to create equality we have dummied  downed our boys, stripped them of boyness to create a non-gender rather than celebrating the two unique genders we have.

We need to get back to the basics, boys are boys and girls are girls, that’s all there is to it. We are different, one is not better than the other, just different from each other. Now here is were I will get in trouble, but such is life. There are something’s that boys do better than girls and girls do better than boys. There are some actions that are all boy and some that are all girl. That’s just the way it is, sorry but we are not the same, we are equal in the fact that we are humans, that we are created by God, but our equality does not translate in to sameness, we are not the same, we are two different creations with two very different and distinct callings and skill sets. It’s just nature, a fact of life, try as we may (and have over that last 40 years) we cannot make boys in to girls, nor girls in to boy. We are separate genders and we can not make a new non-gender to fit our own selfish needs.

It’s time we accept the fact that boys are boys and girls are girls…


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Live life Loud

Live life loud!


Live life as if it is the only one you will ever have!


All too often we hold back, we don’t let it all hang out, we live life in fear of living life. We need to let go, we need to live life loud, to scream it from our roof tops. We need to show all we meet that life is worth living, life is an adventure, and we need to be interactive with life.


On your path to change, you need to live the life you have with bold statements, bold actions and bold meaning. We need to live life as it was meant to be lived. We all need to show each other the value of life, that each breath we take is the first and last breath for that moment, make it count.


Live life loud; let all hear you let them look and question why you are proclaiming the glory and beauty of life. Let all who hear crave the loudness of life you live.


Live life bold; let all who see you look upon you with awe and wonder let them see the colors of life flow from your actions.


Life is worth living, but all too often we fail to actually live it, often from fear of living it wrong.


Life is an adventure, one worth taking, but all too often we sit the adventure out, out of fear of hurting ourselves.


Life is yours to live, so start today!



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To truly change your life, you need to think outside the box, you need to look in to yourself and see things differently. The movie The Dead Poet Society demonstrated this point beautifully when the students where asked to stand on the desk, in order to see the world from a different point of view. The exercise was simple, silly but very powerful.

All too often we look at the world the way that makes us the most comfortable. We find that comfort zone very early in our life, when we are just in our teens. We learn what makes us uneasy, and learn to avoid this situation or we learn how to block it, shut down our intake so we do not have to experience it.

But to grow, to become new, we have to learn how to re-evaluate the world around us, and to look at the world through new eyes. We have to lift ourselves up above the world and ourselves and learn to see the world around us and ourselves and new and different. 

The excitement can be overwhelming and often we equate overwhelming with a negative experience, but the opposite can be true as well. In-fact it should be considered a very positive experience. Life is yours to take, if you are willing to do so.

Carpe diem (Latin for ‘seize the day’), another reference back to the movie Dead Poets Society this phrase should be all our ours motto, each day is a gift, one that we need to seize, make our own and to live as if it is our last day on this earth. We where created to live life to the fullest, we where created to love life.

To truly change your life, to truly create yourself new, you need to step outside the box, you need to look at life from a different vantage point. You must stand high and look down on the world around you, and truly change your perspective on your life and the world around you.

So start to day, start now, get up, stand on your desk or chair or what ever is around you and say carpe diem, and mean it! Look at life as an adventure, one worth having.



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