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blog%20board It has been sometime for me to blog here on You Can Be New, the last posting was a found article I wanted to share, not truly my own work. I have started to blog again on my other site, STATIC Youth, and have really enjoyed the process. I forgot how much I enjoyed the process.

I think that is true with most things we do, we need to stop to understand how much it truly means to us. Their is the old saying, if you love something let it free, if it returns than the love is true. Or something like that. I think this is what applies to my blogging. I was blogging for two blogs everyday, writing the curriculum for my company and writing and teaching at my day job. I think the writing and creative thinking parts just kicked my butt. I tried to keep it up, but found that my ideas were lame, at best, and that my writing was not truly what I was proud of. Now some will say that none of my writing is anything to be proud of, and that my be. But I have a standard, and I like to keep to it.

I have seem myself grow through the blogging process. Over the past few days I have been re-reading some of the stuff I wrote, and for the most part was pleased with it all, well except for the spelling mistakes. But I also noticed a growth in the writing from month to month and year to year. I was proud of my growth and pleased with my convictions. So I have decided to blog once again.

I am not sure if the You can be New blog will be updated daily or not, I am concentrating on the STATIC Youth blog more, I am concentrating on my faith more. This blog deals with my faith, but in a indirect way, here I am looking at ways to improve my life, too find ways to expand my experiences were-as in the STATIC Youth blog I am taking a more direct look at my faith and how my faith effects life, world and others.

So for anyone who misses my blog’s I am back, and for everyone else… Here I am…

Paul

Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits

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I remember learning in one of my psychology classes that one of the dangers of helping a married couple reconcile is that once they do, they may no longer wish to stay together. That sometimes when we “grow” and “change” we end up growing and changing right out of the relationship. It’s the risk of the change.

I would think that the same can be said for all relationships, that when one or both change there is always a risk of growing truly apart. If one grows and the other does not, it is often times hard to deal with, the person who has moved on finds it hard to understand why you have not and the ones who have stayed are overwhelmed with your changes and feel left behind. So the fact that we change does not mean our life will be an easy road, fact is that often times changes make our life more complex not less.

So why bother?

In truth the answer is truly up to you, bother or not, change is always apart of our life, so if you choose not to, others will choose to. Growth is what we are created for, it is how we are hard wired, we will change and grow or we will be left behind.

 

Paul

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STATIC Solutions, LLC a leader in middle school faith formation just released it’s on line Portal server, giving unprecedented access to faith formation material to parish educators at unbelievable prices and quality. 

Westland, Michigan (PRWEB) 01, July, 2009 –

STATIC Solutions, LLC a leader in middle school faith formation just released it’s on line Portal server, giving unprecedented access to faith formation material to parishes, home schooled and youth ministers. The STATIC Portal is a web based solution for your parish educational needs, giving total control to you and your parish staff for a reasonable yearly fee.

With the STATIC Portal ™ you will be able to download and print the documents you need when you need them. With continual updates to the Portal, you will always find something new and interesting to use, to help supplement your educational programs, or to replace your existing program with the STATIC Youth ™ program.

The STATIC Youth ™ program is a three year Confirmation preparation program designed to engage the youth in the learning process. The STATIC Youth ™ program uses interactive educational models to draw the youth in to the learning process, and at the same time imparting valuable Catholic principles as they take their faith walk towards conformation.

STATIC Youth ™ is a designed as a 6th through 8th grade program, with an alternating theme of small group (class room) and large group (youth group) sessions. Each session, large or small group, is designed to actively involve the youth and leaders in the process of discovery.

The STATIC Program can also be used as supplemental material for parishes choosing the “whole community” educational model. With 12 different topics to choose from, ranging from Exodus to Christian Service, there is bound to be something that fits your parish needs.

The Home Schooling community will also find the STATIC Portal ™ a useful and relevant tool for their educational and faith needs. STATIC Solutions faith based material can easily be adapted for home schooling needs, or can be used for “group” sessions with other home schooling youth in your area.

The possibilities are endless for the parish, schools or home schooled. With the ability to mix and match to create your own unique program, or by following our tested and proven program, STATIC offers you the control you need and the strong Catholic education materials you desire.

STATIC Portal ™ is a yearly subscription site that allows reproduction rights to all its copy-written material for one year. We, at STATIC Solutions, pride ourselves on delivering relevant programming that is faithful to the teachings of the Catholic Church.

For more information on the STATIC Youth ™ program and the STATIC Portal ™ please visit www.staticplace.com

 

About STATIC Solutions, LLC:
STATIC Solutions, LLC. is a dynamic educational organization dedicated to forging lasting relationships between children, their families, and Christ.  The name stands for Students Taking Action Together in Christ, located in Westland, Michigan. STATIC Solutions has developed fun and interactive Catholic/Christian-based curriculum for young adults in sixth through eighth grade as well as those in youth groups and Sunday school programs.  STATIC Solutions combines activity-based games with high-impact educational lessons that inspire kids to take ownership of their faith.  STATIC Solutions will provide local and national church organizations with subscriptions to this unique and in-demand curriculum.

 

Contact:
Paul Sposite, owner
STATIC Solutions, LLC
734-748-3771
http://www.staticplace.com

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Each new day brings with it new opportunities. As we continue or journey to a new and exciting version of ourselves, we often times need to close the door on the old version of ourselves. This door closing often times can be harder than the actual change we have gone through, is a way we are allowing a part of ourselves to die out.

The process of dealing with the death of a loved one can be difficult, but in some ways it is even harder to deal with your own death, of sorts. It is hard to let go of a part of yourself, even when you know it is good for you.

Have you ever tried to quit smoking or eating that second helping of cake. It is hard to quit something even when you know its best for you. We enjoy the little evil pleasures of life, for what ever reason and to give it up is a struggle.

How much more of a struggle will it be to give up a part of yourself? To move on to a new you? The death of yourself is a very traumatic event, one that can bring you down or lift you up.

Now you maybe asking how can a traumatic event lift me up? Well if you look through out history you will see examples of just that. In fact you really do not have to look very far back in to history, just look to 9/11. In the mist of tragedy we saw the best of humanity. People where lifted up and became new. Mother Theresa lived in tragedy daily, but she was lifted up by it, became a new creation.

The heroes of 9/11 and Mother Theresa, and scores of others, all had to die to themselves to become the saints and heroes they are. They each had to give something up, in the case of our 9/11 heroes, some gave there lives others gave them selves. Mother Theresa gave her love. But each, regardless, had to give, had to die to themselves.

Change is hard, it is a struggle, but it can be, and should be an uplifting experience. Death is never the end, it is always the beginning of something new and greater than what we have known. Death allows us a new life, it allows us the opportunity to rediscover the living, and to see them in a new light.

So sure, dieing to yourself can be difficult and it can cause pain, but that pain is only temporary if we allow it to lead us, if we allow it to lift us up.

Paul

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Accomplishing Your Goals

 

 

Constantly search for new and improved ways of accomplishing your goals. Avoid becoming devoted to a particular practice. Today’s rapidly changing and keenly competitive world requires constant improvement. Routinely reevaluate what you are doing and why and consistently review ways to revamp and reorganize in order to use time and effort with the most effective methods possible. Encourage an attitude of continuous improvement in yourself. Be open to recommendations for improvement. When you are receptive to the ideas of others, they are more open to your suggestions. When individuals as a whole are cooperative, adaptable, and solution-oriented, the potential of all is tapped. Then everyone will enjoy the benefits of a new you.

 

The above is a modified article I read in the LMI (Leadership Management Institute) Journal that I receive in my inbox each week. I receive several different email newsletters to help me grow myself, but also to spur ideas in me. The above article was geared towards management and corporate life, but with a few removed lines, replace a few words here and there, it works for us. There is a good lesson in that.

 

I look for inspiration anywhere I can find it, TV, Movies, Music, Books, People, and even email Newsletters, you never know where inspiration will hit. I read a bible passage and boom, a new blog about self improvement; I watch TV and see a guest on a talk show and bam another topic for discussion.  Don’t be afraid to look in unconventional places to find that motivation for change. As the article above state, change it up sometimes, look for new and improved ways to become a better you.

 

Paul

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Today I thought we would have a little fun and take a poll, see what everyone thinks about change and is it really possible. So take a moment and complete the poll, and who knows we all may learn something.

It’s an interesting question, one that I think we all can learn from, so next week we will look at the responses and see what is what.

Paul

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The power of a list, we make list for everything

·         Shopping

·         House work

·         Honey do

·         Need to get

And so on, you get the idea, we make list to help us organize our days. People have become millionaires just by teaching us how to make and follow our lists. Think about that for a second, people make millions teaching us how to organize our lives, to list in out and to follow it. What a concept.

I have told you in different blog postings to make list, to organize your life your thoughts and your dreams, to list them and organize them and then to execute them.

List work, it’s that simple. The list provide us with a non-cluttered view of our day, work, life, whatever the list if for. It gives us a direction to follow, top down, and a sense of completion when we cross it off as done.

List allows us the freedom to complete a task and move on to a new task; they allow us the freedom of celebrating small victories in our daily grind. With a list in hand, we seem to have power, control over our own lives. We list everything, sometimes we even make list of list.

What is the hidden power of a list, why do we love them so? I can only speculate but I would have to say that the power of the list is the fact that list are linear, they flow down, they are clean and crisp. Our human nature looks for order in life and in nature. We are drawn to crisp clean lines, and unobstructed views. Lists provide that for us. They are our way of making our day crisp and clean, our way of making a straight line out of all the twist and turns our life brings us.

Some people create calendars or plan every second of their day. Everything must be on the list, or calendar or it’s not done. The day must be planned; they must have every second penned in, no pencils that indicated uncertainty, a chance that things may change. Other pencil in only a few items, leaving the rest of the day to chance, allowing for the ebb and flow of life.

Lists… Good or Bad?

Yes to both, a list can be good and it can be bad. Depending on how the list is used, and more importantly how the person using the list reacts to it. If the list becomes the end all and do all to their lives, that that list is a very unhealthy thing. The list should not control you but you should control it. Now remember I am a strong believer in list. I recommend them, but not as a control factor, but as a way to help you prioritize or view your life. A list should never be considered the master of your life.

So keep making list, allow them to help guide you, but never allow them to control you. Remember the list was created by you, so you have the ability to change it as needed.

Lists are our friends, as long as they remember their place in your life.

Paul

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Before I start my blog let me ask you a question:

Why do you want to change?

What are your reasons for wanting to change?

Ok, so that was more than “a” question, but in truth both will get to where I want to go. Now, once again before we start in on the body of the blog, respond to the above questions, list your reasons for wanting to change, for wanting to become “A New You”. I’ll wait…….

 

 

 

Ok, got your list? If the “Because it will make me happy” is on your list, or if “I don’t know” is on your list cross them off. If your list contains any ambiguous reason like the two above, cross them off, now be honest, I’ll wait…..

 

 

All set? Got your list, or did you end up crossing everything off? If you did, don’t worry, most people have very ambiguous reasons. That’s what this blog is all about…

 

If we look at the number of people who are trying to change their lives, the number of books sold and seminars attended and the number of blogs written and read, it is staggering. But if so many people are in the process, why do only a select few make it? What is the secret, what do they have that we do not? We read the same books, say they same catch phrases and sometimes even emulate all their actions. But to no end, we still are stuck in our old life, striving to get to the new one. What do they have that we do not?

The question is simple and the secret is really not a secret, but we fail to see it. It’s our reasons, it’s our why we want to’s. What motivates us to work hard at our goal, why do we get up in the morning to read the newest self help book, or log on to the computer to read our inbox or the latest blog entry.

If our reason is week, so will or resolve be. We need a strong reason, something to push us beyond our limits. A week reason serves no purpose; it does not push us, or motivate us to work harder. An ambiguous reason will lead to an ambiguous response. So before you read your next self help book or start down a new path to a new you, sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes and relax, place yourself in a meditative mood and reflect on your reasons for wanting to change. Make a list, and check it twice. Remove any ambiguous reasons. Prioritize them and relate them to tangible goals, with realistic time lines.

You need to find the motivation in yourself, and that motivation comes from the reason for the need to change. Change for change sake never last, it is built on shaky ground, but change for a reason will last, for it is built on solid ground.

Paul

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Spring Fever

Spring fever has set in, I am truly done with winter and the snow and the cold. It can all end now! I want to open my windows up in my house, air it out. I want to sit outside and enjoy my fish pond. I am sick of sitting inside, of felling cold, and sick of my skin being so ruff.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love all the sessions in Michigan, but I must admit the winter seems a tad too long. In my opinion winter can end December 26th.

So what is all this about, what does my issues with the weather have to do with changing in to a new you. I think the feeling I have concerning the weather is the same feeling we have with the whole process of change. We start out enjoying the process, its fun, it’s refreshing and it’s new. But after a little bit of time, it all starts to wear on you.

That’s how I feel now with the snow and the cold, it is starting to wear on me.  I am ready for the sun and warmth. The same can be said for the process of change, I am ready for the comfort of the new me. But like the changing of the sessions, we too will continually changing. And like cabin fever we will have moments of frustration and times that we just want to give in. But like winter, the times will change and we will be in to our spring time of change. A time of new growth and days of sun shine.

I know that this is a long cold hard winter, and for many it may be one filled with storms raging daily, but always be reminded that Spring is on its way, and the lazy days of summer will soon follow. And in your life you will soon know peace.

Paul

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Change can happen when just seem to happen when you least expect it to, you just seem to walk in to it. One moment you are you, than BAM you are someone new. Funny how that works, we can spend a life time trying to make a better us, and it seems that overnight it just happens. Like the overnight stars we read about, one day they are nothing the next they are super stars. What we don’t read about are all the long nights they practiced or all the failures they had. As a people we like stories that seem supernatural, we like the underdogs. This is one of the reasons “American Idol” is so popular, an unknown becomes known, worldwide. And it seems like it was over night, it just happened. Sure sometimes you hear a true story of a person just sitting in a coffee shop, and the next moment they are big movie stars, a producer found them, never acted before, had no interest in it, and BAM a star is born. But they are rare, most of us struggle to make it in whatever we are doing. We fail, pick ourselves up and try again. It’s how life is. Change takes work, each and every step, forward or backwards is a step in our change process. We never truly move backwards, setbacks and failures are all part of the process. I have set up several companies in my past, and each has “failed” according the conventional wisdom, but to me each has moved me a step closer the “overnight success” I am waiting for. Each has been part of the process. Each offers a lesson learned. So the success of any of my endeavors is on the back of my “failures”, the same can be said for the change that takes place in me, the new me is always on the back of the old. Reinventing myself is not possible, I am already invented, but I can polish and fix it myself up a bit, but trust me, it will not be an overnight change, but rather one of a life time of changes, and becomings. Paul

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