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Forgiveness has the power to change not only you but also the one you forgive. It is a powerful force, forgiveness, it can change hearts, minds and souls, nations can be changed and the world can move on, all because of forgiveness.

Who would have thought such a simple word could do so much.

If we look at the major religions of the world, forgiveness is a key teaching, Jesus Christ died for the forgiveness of our sins, and in doing so, He has changed the world for all times.

Can we have that big of an effect? I would say yes we do, and we have proof of it in our world.  Gondi had to forgive his persecutors in his peaceful protest or the protest would not have been peaceful, his heart would have been too heavy with hate.  Nelson Mandela had to forgive to be an effective leader, and Pope John Paul II forgave the man who tried to kill him. Each of the people represents just a few examples of the power of forgiveness, and each has changed the world we live in today.

We each carry the same power; the power is there for us, if we choose to use it.

So how do we forgive others? The word is simple to say, but extremely hard to mean. The words “I forgive you” have a deep meaning and extreme power, but that power is only seen or felt when the meaning is true and deeply spoken.

To forgive others we have to start someplace, and the place to start is with yourself, we must be willing to truly forgive ourselves before you can even think about forgiving others. We cannot give to others what we do not have already. So if you have no forgiveness for yourself, how are you expected to give forgiveness to others?

Think about that for a few, take your time, let your mind get around that concept, let it sink in to the deepest parts of your heart, and feel the truth of it. It may take some time, minutes, hours, days or even weeks.

How can our forgiving ourselves affect our ability to forgive others? It can and it does. If we hold forgiveness from ourselves we are not free to give it to others, we lock our hearts down and chain up our souls, and keep forgiveness not only from ourselves but others.

I cannot tell you how to find forgiveness in yourself, nor can I tell you how to forgive yourself, but I can tell you it will take time and a lot of self searching. I would recommend you look for and read books on forgiveness and self discovery. I would also recommend any book by Dr. Wayne Dyer, his books will force you to look deep with and to take responsibility for your actions. Start there and work up to self forgiveness, than forgiveness of others.

It’s a long process, one that I am still working on, and most likely will until the day I die.

Paul

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September 11 2001, a day that changed history, a day the America saw terror first hand. A day of great sorrow, not just for the American lives lost, but for all life lost.

Some of you may be saying that there is no sorrow for the terrorist lives lost, they got what they deserved. And to that I would argue that any loss of life is a sorrow.

God created only good, God created only beauty. It is the human factor, the human element that corrupted the perfection of God. So I will say it again, what a sad and sorrowful day, September 11 2001 was, and today September 11, 2008 we should take time to stop and reflect on our fallen nature, say a prayer for all the souls lost on that day and for all the loss of life since then.

If the purpose of this blog is to help us grow and become a better self, then part of that growth has to be forgiveness, of not only ourselves and friends, but that of our enemies also. Jesus tells us to love our enemies as well as our family and friends. He goes on to say that really what sacrifice is it to love the ones who are your friends and family; they love you in return, and make it easier to love them. But your enemies, the ones who want to do you harm, that is a true test of your ability to love.

Please do not confuse love with acceptance, I am commanded to love my enemies, but I do not and should not accept the evil they wish to do, or have done. And yes they should be punished, and sometimes that means killing them, as in war times, but I still should be sad and full of sorrow over the loss of life.

It is a complicated world, and faith adds to that complication, Jesus calls us to a level of compassion that most of us are not able to achieve, yet He keeps calling us to it, no matter how many times we fail.

So on this sad day, one filled with sorrow and memories of innocent lives lost, take a moment and say a prayer that our enemies will see the error of their ways, and that we may open our hearts to them, and offer our forgiveness and love.

Today, fly your flag high, and wear your patriotism proudly, let your heart sing songs of joy and your actions show the world that America, with all of her problems, is still the shining city on the hill, whose light shines for the entire world to see.

May God continue to bless America, and may God bless you

Paul

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Forgiveness is a hard thing to do, but we are asked to forgive our enemy, in the name of helping ourselves.

How does that work, I am hurt by someone, they are now my enemy, but I am asked to forgive them, then I am told it is good for me.

Well that is true, forgiveness is more for the person offering it, then to the person receiving it. It removes negative feelings from out daily thought, opens our minds and clears our heart. All of this is not only good for the soul, but its all healthy for the body.

Negative feeling, resentment and such all weigh down on us, it’s a heavy burden to carry. Forgiveness is a blessing to the forgiver, its a gift of love to self, along with a gift of love to the person you are forgiving.

So give yourself a gift, forgive your Enemy…

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The folloing was sent to me in an email, I am not sure who the original auther is, but I found it very profound and wanted to share it with you. I will list them here, and over the next few blogs I will break each one down (The break downs will be my own personal interpitation of the meaning).

  

  

  

The Best things to give:

  1. You’re Enemy: Forgiveness
  2. You’re Opponent: Tolerance
  3. You’re Friend: Your Heart
  4. You’re Child: A Good Exalmple
  5. You’re Father: Deference
  6. You’re Mother: Conduct to make her proud of you
  7. Yourself: Respect
  8. To all Men: Charity

I have this list in my Daily Planner, and see it everyday, hoping to have it inspier me, and help me to grow in to a person worth of God’s love, now I want to share it with you!

Paul

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The next few postings will be breaking down the 10 Keys to success, this is the first: 

Key #1:  Go Past

It happened, learn from it, and move on

This is the first step for a reason, it’s the key to all of the others. We need to learn to let go of the past. We all have had bad things happen to us, yes some greater then others, but all where bad.

If we can not let the past be the past, then how do we plan of going forward? It’s a paradox we all have to deal with. We have to GO PAST the past, to move forward.

The past is like an anchor, it keeps us grounded in what was, and will not allow us to move to what is and what will be. For example, someone, in the past, may have taken money from us, or may have hurt our feelings by speaking badly of us. Yes both accounts are wrong, and yes the people involved should pay for the harm, either by returning the money, or taking back the false statements. But they should not have to pay for the same sin for years to come.

We need to learn to let go and forgive and to GO PAST the past. If we hold the grudge over this person, in the end we are the only-ones who suffer. Resentment, and hatred are both very heavy emotions to hang on to.

Have you ever seen a happy person who is resentful or full of hatred?

NO!

And you never will. The two emotions can not share the same spot in our life. We can not be a happy hateful person.

We need to GO PAST the even, to move on with our life, to bring ourselves back in to the light, the light of goodness, kindness and forgiveness. We need to reconnect to God, who does not understand hatred and resentment, he only understand forgiveness and love.

the ego (Edging God Out) needs to be left out of your life, your ego will and does keep you from forgiveness, and keeps you from GOing PAST the past, because the ego was harmed, bruised and it has a long memory. Remember that the ego (Edging God Out) is not concerned in your healing, but rather it is interested only-in it’s feelings. Nothing else matters! Remove the ego, and you will learn to GO PAST.

So start today, and pick one person you are resentful toward, and offer them your forgiveness, it matters not, if they except it… it only matters that you offered it.

Key 1 GO PAST is the key to all others, open your heart mind and soul and let this key set you free.

Paul

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