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Communication is the key to almost all of our inner and outer issues. If we fail to communicate our concerns, issues and needs, be it to others or ourselves, then how is it we expect others or ourselves to fill them?

Communication is the key.

Most of us are not comfortable communicating, we shy away from it, we find reasons not to do it, “They look busy” “I don’t want to bother them” “It’s nothing, really” and so on. The ability to trick our minds in to thinking our needs are of no great value is staggering. The lack of communication is deafening.

We are silencing ourselves in to epidemic proportions. We are a society that leans on no one and allows no one to lean on us. We, as a whole, do not communicate, we may disseminate the information, the feelings and issues, but we do not communicate them. We dump them, on ourselves or others and wait for the fix.

Communication is a two Way Street, the verbalization aspect is only one part, the listening to the words, feelings and emotions are the second and most important part. Communication cannot happen in a void, it cannot be a selfish act and it cannot be one-sided.

We most open ourselves up to be heard and to hear, regardless of who is doing the verbalization. The sender must be willing to hear their voice and the voice of the other, the receiver. They must be willing to open up and hear the words that they themselves are saying. They must feel the emotion and integrity of what is being communicated. And the receiver must open up and push aside any preconditions they have. They must hear in the words not only the intended speech but also the under speech, that which is not spoken but inferred.

Communication is an act of active participation on both parts; once again, it cannot be done in a void.

The same principle applies to self-communication; you must be able to play both the sender and receiver. To discern what you are saying and what is the under speech, what you are meaning.

Often times we speak in riddles, we dance around the issues, and we hide the true problem under several layers of non-issues. The ability to peel away the layers, to find the true issue in the job of the receiver and the sender, active participation is required by all parties involved in the communication process. It is a skill set that the human race as a whole needs to work on and one that I personally need to hone in on still. I study and practice and learn, in the hopes that one day I will be able to communicate with the best of them, Until than I will keep practicing.

Paul

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