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Communication is the key to almost all of our inner and outer issues. If we fail to communicate our concerns, issues and needs, be it to others or ourselves, then how is it we expect others or ourselves to fill them?

Communication is the key.

Most of us are not comfortable communicating, we shy away from it, we find reasons not to do it, “They look busy” “I don’t want to bother them” “It’s nothing, really” and so on. The ability to trick our minds in to thinking our needs are of no great value is staggering. The lack of communication is deafening.

We are silencing ourselves in to epidemic proportions. We are a society that leans on no one and allows no one to lean on us. We, as a whole, do not communicate, we may disseminate the information, the feelings and issues, but we do not communicate them. We dump them, on ourselves or others and wait for the fix.

Communication is a two Way Street, the verbalization aspect is only one part, the listening to the words, feelings and emotions are the second and most important part. Communication cannot happen in a void, it cannot be a selfish act and it cannot be one-sided.

We most open ourselves up to be heard and to hear, regardless of who is doing the verbalization. The sender must be willing to hear their voice and the voice of the other, the receiver. They must be willing to open up and hear the words that they themselves are saying. They must feel the emotion and integrity of what is being communicated. And the receiver must open up and push aside any preconditions they have. They must hear in the words not only the intended speech but also the under speech, that which is not spoken but inferred.

Communication is an act of active participation on both parts; once again, it cannot be done in a void.

The same principle applies to self-communication; you must be able to play both the sender and receiver. To discern what you are saying and what is the under speech, what you are meaning.

Often times we speak in riddles, we dance around the issues, and we hide the true problem under several layers of non-issues. The ability to peel away the layers, to find the true issue in the job of the receiver and the sender, active participation is required by all parties involved in the communication process. It is a skill set that the human race as a whole needs to work on and one that I personally need to hone in on still. I study and practice and learn, in the hopes that one day I will be able to communicate with the best of them, Until than I will keep practicing.

Paul

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The next few postings will be breaking down the 10 Keys to success, this is the first: 

Key #1:  Go Past

It happened, learn from it, and move on

This is the first step for a reason, it’s the key to all of the others. We need to learn to let go of the past. We all have had bad things happen to us, yes some greater then others, but all where bad.

If we can not let the past be the past, then how do we plan of going forward? It’s a paradox we all have to deal with. We have to GO PAST the past, to move forward.

The past is like an anchor, it keeps us grounded in what was, and will not allow us to move to what is and what will be. For example, someone, in the past, may have taken money from us, or may have hurt our feelings by speaking badly of us. Yes both accounts are wrong, and yes the people involved should pay for the harm, either by returning the money, or taking back the false statements. But they should not have to pay for the same sin for years to come.

We need to learn to let go and forgive and to GO PAST the past. If we hold the grudge over this person, in the end we are the only-ones who suffer. Resentment, and hatred are both very heavy emotions to hang on to.

Have you ever seen a happy person who is resentful or full of hatred?

NO!

And you never will. The two emotions can not share the same spot in our life. We can not be a happy hateful person.

We need to GO PAST the even, to move on with our life, to bring ourselves back in to the light, the light of goodness, kindness and forgiveness. We need to reconnect to God, who does not understand hatred and resentment, he only understand forgiveness and love.

the ego (Edging God Out) needs to be left out of your life, your ego will and does keep you from forgiveness, and keeps you from GOing PAST the past, because the ego was harmed, bruised and it has a long memory. Remember that the ego (Edging God Out) is not concerned in your healing, but rather it is interested only-in it’s feelings. Nothing else matters! Remove the ego, and you will learn to GO PAST.

So start today, and pick one person you are resentful toward, and offer them your forgiveness, it matters not, if they except it… it only matters that you offered it.

Key 1 GO PAST is the key to all others, open your heart mind and soul and let this key set you free.

Paul

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