Remember one day it may be you

Ever notice how some people have to make a comment about something no matter what, you know the type, you give a presentation and they have to tell you how they can do it better, or where you went wrong. You write an article and they have to comment on it, even if they have no understanding of the article. It’s like a disease, one that forces them to prop themselves up by pushing others down. I have dealt with people like that, worked with them, have been friends with them and been in meetings with them. To me it truly is a sickness, and I pray that I don’t have it and will never get it.

People like this would tell God himself that he needed to work on his communication skills a little. The fact that they have to find something, anything really be it real or made-up to complain about, some way to belittle you is just odd to me. Now I will give my honest opinion concerning someone, if they ask me, but I would never make something up nor would I offer it with being asked, and depending on whom it is, and the time and place, I may not offer any insights. But others seem to think it is always the correct time and place regardless to whom they are talking to.

Now please understand that I see nothing wrong with stating where someone may have failed, were they may have slipped up, but only if it is useful to them. Why bother to state a failure if it will serve no positive outcome? This has always bothered me, from elementary school until now, and will most likely until I die. But now I feel a little better, I have gotten it off my chest, for the time being…

So the next time you feel the urge to let someone know they did a bad job on that report or speech, stop and ask yourself the following questions:

1.       Did they ask me to comment?

2.       Will it serve a positive outcome?

3.       Am I “just looking for” a fault, or is it real?

Before you speak, stop, think and take a deep breath… Remember one day it may be you that is getting the same treatment…

Paul

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Yourself: Respect

Due unto others as you want done to you….It’s the good old golden rule… And we all would do well to follow it. Respect is something that is lacking in our world, not just for others, but for us. We need to start at home.

You have herd it said before, you must love yourself before you can love others, well respect is a sign of love, so we must respect ourselves, that means our body, mind and soul, we must respect the whole package.

We can show respect for ourselves in a lot of different ways, by not taking drugs, by taking care of our body, by feeding our minds with positive good thoughts… And so on…

To show ourselves respect will also earn respect from others. Others will not respect you, if you can not respect yourself… It’s all part of the same thing… Respect is not a one-way trip, but rather it’s a round trip.

The world would be a safer place; there would be no reason for laws, if respect was part of our daily thought pattern…

So start today, and respect yourself like you are something and someone, because you are, you are a creation like no other….

Paul

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You’re Mother: Conduct to make her proud of you

In all that we do, for all of our life, until the day we die, we will always be our mother’s child.

In all we do, we owe her the praise of good conduct, conduct that will make proud. Mothers are the giver of life, the co-creator of your existence.

All that we do reflect on the ones who created and nurtured us, it is our obligation, and privilege to repay that with respect, and honor, to our mother and ourselves.

So choose conduct that honors your mother in all you do, and remember to tell her that you are proud of her, and that you will do all you can to return to her the same…

 

Paul

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You’re Father: Deference

Respect and esteem due a superior or an elder that is how Websters defines the word, deference. Basically it mean Honor…

We should honor our father, give him the respect due to him. That’s good solid advice, but not always easy to do.

Respect in today era is something earned, no one is deserving of it, just because, they must respect me first… and so on.

Well, sort of. Consider this, if they must respect you first, and they feel the same way, that you must respect them first, in the end no one gets any respect.

Respecting your father (please note, that any male father figure will do here) is a sign of love, it does not mean you agree with everything they say or do, but rather that you will honer them in their wishes as long as it is not harmful to you. Respect is due to the “office” that he holds as father, but the respect must be a two way street. But we all must respect the office of father, if we are ever to gain the respect from the person, and in return we will learn to respect the person of Father also.

Paul

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You’re Child: A Good Exalmple

Monkey see, Monkey do…. The same goes for a child, they learn to live and how to interact from the example we show.

We are intolerant, so are they

We lie, they return it with a lie

We hate, they hate with greater force

The child is a gift that we must protect and teach to live well in this world. We are obligated to take care of them, to provide for them, not only a home, food and other such things, but we are obligated to teach them how to be in this world.

We do our teaching with words and actions. We set examples, and we live out the truth we are setting forth.  To the best of our ability.

The child is the world of today, and of tomorrow, how we treat them and what we teach them will become ours. The Child of today, that we care for, will be the adult that cares for us.

The golden rule applies here, due unto others, as you want done unto you…

So teach your child to use others, they will use you…

Teach them the respect all things, and they will respect you…

The gift of a good example will repay you many times over, the child today who learns to love, is the adult of tomorrow who save the world.

A child, yours or someone else, it matters not, is ours to teach, to nurture and love. One child sees hatred, and they become, one child sees love and they become.

It is the example that we all set, not just the parents, a child could grow-up in a home of hate, but because of the community around him/her they learn love. A recent report stated that the peers and outside community of a child may have more to do with the child and how they grow up then the parents. The example they used was a child who’s parents where from a foreign country, the child will pick up the accent of his/her peers, and not that of the parents.

We, as community, have the same obligation to raise that child in a healthy, happy and safe environment, it truly takes a community to set the example for the child.

When we vote this November, we need to remember we are also voting for the example we wish to send to the children of our community, when we watch TV, we are setting an example, how we talk, eat and all other daily activities set examples.

It is our obligation, and privlage to raise them, to love them and respect them. Show your love for them by setting a good example in all you do!

Paul

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The Best things to Give

The folloing was sent to me in an email, I am not sure who the original auther is, but I found it very profound and wanted to share it with you. I will list them here, and over the next few blogs I will break each one down (The break downs will be my own personal interpitation of the meaning).

  

  

  

The Best things to give:

1. You’re Enemy: Forgiveness
2. You’re Opponent: Tolerance
3. You’re Friend: Your Heart
4. You’re Child: A Good Exalmple
5. You’re Father: Deference
6. You’re Mother: Conduct to make her proud of you
7. Yourself: Respect
8. To all Men: Charity

I have this list in my Daily Planner, and see it everyday, hoping to have it inspier me, and help me to grow in to a person worth of God’s love, now I want to share it with you!

Paul

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